Pain

We all have experienced this thing called pain. It’s an aspect of life that we may experience emotionally, mentally, and physically. It’s a gut wrenching feeling that brings back constant memories of who hurt us, when we were hurt, and the severity of the the hurt. It’s not easy dealing with pain because when someone does something that reminds us of how we felt, we relive those moments over and over and over again.

Women and men deal with pain differently. As women, we nurture the pain and keep it in our possession for days, months, years just as we nurture our loved ones and children. It’s in our blood to nurture things by nature. We harbor the feelings long after we should which causes us to bring old situations in new ones. Men can let pain go at the drop of a dime. Not even think or talk about it ever again. For some God created us this way. We can learn from each other how to overcome pain, but that’s easier said than done.

When I get offended by what someone says or does, I try my hardest not to hold it against the person and forgive them. However, THIS IS HARD TO DO. I’m still learning to not take things so personal and not let everything get to me. But I confess, its not easy but we have to forgive one another. I’ve learned that forgiveness is not really for the other person, it’s for YOU. When we continue to hold on to what someone else did to us, we create layers and layers of pain that become harder to let go as we go through life. It’s easier just to let things go but it never seems that way.

Forgiveness is a characteristic of the mature, not the immature. I say this only because it takes a strong person to truly forgive someone even after they may have harmed you to the highest power. Letting go of pain releases freedom over your life. You no longer have to hold on to grudges against anyone, which then opens up space in your heart to love. Forgiveness is all about love. When we fail to forgive, we close our hearts and they become hard. Forgiveness makes our heart work properly again.

My advixe for dealing with pain is to forgive the other person or persons and let it go! You can’t be forgiven for what you’ve done UNLESS you forgive first. It’s like a domino affect. Forgive and you will be forgiven. If you feel like you can’t forgive, give it some time. Focus on being positive and trust God that he will allow you to forgive that person one day. Ask him to help you and mature you to release the pain that others may have caused. Trust me, it works.

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Please watch this guided meditation on forgiveness ✨:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0WUyq3CbwyY&feature=share

- Blue Moon 🌙